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“Be kind— For Everyone You Meet is Fighting a Hard Battle.”

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Carleton Place- Monday August 15-2016

 

 

For anyone that has suffered with mental health issues– a true story

 

Lila looked at the garden that was void of anything that might scream the word Spring. It had been a long year. She had recently lost her job due to what was known in hushed tones as “age restructuring”. In the short span of time that her notice and severance had been issued she was due to pay the closing fees on the new home she had just purchased. Had she known she was going to be out of a job the expensive acquisition would have been out of the question. As she looked at patches of snow melting under her feet, she wondered how she was going to make it financially.


Weeks passed and grief from the loss of her job began to set in. She began to wait until dark when the neighbours were asleep to groom on her back yard. Her constant worry was that the steep incline by the fence would cause her yard to flood once the heavy rains set in. Night after night she added fill to raise the yard and slept during the day only to wake when the birds had gone to bed. Her moods darkened, and the landscaping work became the sole focus of her life. Money was running out, but no one would hire a 65 year-old-woman, so all realities were shut out except the first signs of Spring.


No matter how hard she laboured, there seem to be no result from all her extensive knowledgeable work. Lila began to hear whispers coming from her home’s air vents and quickly assumed people were watching her. Maybe that was why the yard was not progressing she thought. The unknowns talking to her through the vents had control over everything she did. So Lila did what she thought was right. Even though it was the last thing she could afford, she paid $54.99 for a Norton Anti-Virus program. Now there would be complete browser support for her and her garden’s vulnerability protection. However, it did not seem to matter that Norton delivered up-to-the-minute protection with rapid pulse updates every 5 to 15 minutes. The voices continued and there was still no sign of Spring in her yard.

As time progressed Lila lost touch with the few friends she had. When a concerned neighbour called the police to check on her well-being, they found an emancipated woman who at first glance seemed to have no touch with reality. Lila knew she must put on the performance of her life in case they would take her away before Spring. She quickly and quietly told the voices in the vents to hush. Forcing a smile, she asked the police if they would like a cup of tea and quickly talked to them about the progress in her backyard. An hour later they left without Lila, confident they had made the right decision about her welfare.

Months down the road the monthly reports from Nortons displayed a complete report of the inner workings of Lila’s computer. There were details of her PC’s activities, threats caught, tune-up tasks performed and files backed up, but all the internet security in the world could not provide Lila’s present whereabouts. A few months later her house went up for sale and each prospective buyer noticed the same thing. It didn’t matter that it was the middle of May in sunny southern California, there was still no sign of Spring in Lila’s yard because in cold dark places, you can only dream of Spring.


This was a true story of a friend of mine who one day was there– and the next next day she disappeared– never to surface again.. as I said at the top:

“Be kind; for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”

Suicide – The Failsafe

Voices Carry — Teen Suicide and Bullying

Suicide- Inner Voices that Carry

Voices Carry — Teen Suicide and Bullying

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I think each parent should hug their child today, tomorrow, and each and every day. Today, I got word that my friend’s grandson, age 13, committed suicide. Bullying does not just take place in school or at any physical place. Unfortunately, there is what is known as cyber bullying. Although this happens with just the computer monitor, it is as cruel as any other type of bullying. Some may say that this is not even serious, but cyber bullying can damage a person emotionally and mentally for a long time.

So today I feel I have to repost this piece that I wrote in March of 2011 when I did a series of articles on suicide and bullying.

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March 2011-Voices Carry- by Linda Seccaspina

A few weeks ago a California high school student visiting the Golden Gate Bridge on a field trip climbed over the railing, jumped and somehow survived the 220-foot plunge into the San Francisco Bay.Most jumpers die with massive internal injuries, broken bones and fractured skulls. Some drown, but this 17-year-old lived, and he suffered no severe injuries except for bruising.  Some suggested it was a dare by fellow classmates, but was it? Suicide is the second leading cause of death among teenagers today. There is way too much peer pressure, feelings that parents don’t understand, and it all adds up to not being able to control things in life.

download (59)In the space of a few weeks in 2011 six young men took their own lives in Perth, Ontario. A few weeks ago a young woman of 16 hung herself after having an argument with her parents. No one could figure out why the young men had killed themselves, but in the case of the young woman it was over her sexuality and being bullied.The townspeople did not know how to respond to these deaths and could not understand, but I did. These teens got to the point of feeling like they had an invisible prison wall around them and were just trying to find some sort of inner peace.

The thing is that the young bullies do not change. They become adults who become bigger threats to mankind because they got away with it in childhood. They quickly learn that they can destroy someone to feel better about themselves. So how many more suicides do we have to hear about to do something about this?

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I asked my friend Carolyn who teaches grade 12 in one of our local schools to comment on this subject as she has seen all of this first hand. Here are her thoughts:

“Linda asked me to write a piece on teen suicide and bullying, and at first I wasn’t sure if I would or even could write anything worth reading. After some time, many revisions, and cheer leading from Linda, I have finally written something for her. I now have a new admiration for bloggers, and of course, Linda.

So here goes… I am a teacher, and have seen these things firsthand. I have also had the heartbreaking experience of dealing with teen suicide as a teacher. The local community where I found myself was facing this issue; something very difficult for teenagers, and essentially children, to understand. Students were affected in different ways of course, but everyone was affected – period. My heart went out to the students I saw praying in the Chapel or crying in the halls, or the silent students who missed a few days of class. No excuse was given for their absences, but there didn’t need to be.

I was their teacher. I wanted to give them answers, but I couldn’t. All I could do was continue our comforting or reassuring routine and keep the classroom door open; and that is what I did. After time, these young adults dealt with their pain (and still do) and came together – as a class, student body, and community. It was brave, and inspiring; something to acknowledge from such a young population. As a teacher, I was proud of their courage and strength. Some students chose to talk about it, others chose to write, which I had the privilege of reading. The bottom line is to know that these issues should be discussed and addressed in an open fashion. As a teacher, this discussion, along with others that may be “uncomfortable”, are welcome in my classroom, as students need to have one place to vent, learn, share, and feel they belong”.

Thank you Linda for your inspiration and compassion, along with the possibility of creating this piece.–Carolyn

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Suicide prevention– THERE IS HELP OUT THERE-trust me

Groups that provide support to youth:

ONTARIO ONLINE & TEXT CRISIS SERVICE

Child, Youth and Family Crisis Line for Eastern Ontario (1-877-377-7775)

Kids Help Phone (1-800-668-6868)

Youth Services Bureau of Ottawa (613-260-2360)

Open Doors for Lanark Children and Youth (613-264-1415)

 

TOURING YOUTH PLAY: Addresses Suicide in Rural Towns

Burning Passions Theatre
Burning Passions Theatre

Burning Passions Theatre added an event.

LISTEN UP, LANARK COUNTY! PRESENTS “JESSIE’S SONG”

April 22, 2016, 7:00pm – April 22, 2016, 8:30pm

YAK Youth Services