What is Expected of a Husband — Ottawa Citizen 1913 :)

June 1913

The other day The Citizen published what were thought to be valuable pointers for the June bride. In answer to it a suffragette reader writes as follows:

We think it is unfair, in these davs of equal suffrage, to demand so much of a woman. What we would like to know is. What is expected of the groom?

To which the editor replied:

Well, Jones is supposed to love, honor and keep his bride and pay the freight. It is his duty to labor early and late to provide for the household. He is the family meal ticket, if he has to beg, borrow or steal the wherewithal to settle with the landlord, the grocer and the butcher.

At a wedding ceremony the bride crowds tbe limelight, while the groom is an inconsequential individual who is openly congratulated and sometimes secretly pitied. After marriage the groom is expected to love his wife and earn a living without losing his equilibrium.

He should know that to retain the affection and respect of his dear little wifey it is necessary to groan inwardly if supper is late and the dinner dishes arent washed. He should hide his chagrin if the steak is burned as hard as a concrete pavement. He should smile and look pleasant if wifey spends ail his money on dresses and overlooks such trifles as paying household bills.

He should beam in radiance if his partner confesses she never learned how to sew or knit. He should order a big box of creams if his bride has an attack of “nerves” and threatens to go home to mother. He should bow down and worship the idol of his eye if the pie crust is as tough as sole leather and the cake turns into molasses or proves unyielding to anything softer than a pick axe.

He should he forgiving and gentle; stern when occasion demands it and as tender-hearted as a chicken when he sees the wind blowing the other way. The main thing, however, is to come across with ample funds to run the house and a little change on the side for spending money. It is an unpardonable sin to act up stingy and play close to the cushion.

Give a bride all the money she wants, stay home at night occasionally and treat yourself like a general nuisance that is a fairly safe prescription for a successful husband, including the new-fledged variety known as a groom. He can best cultivate his own happiness by constant courtesy and attention to the charming creature he has made his bride.

Marriage is a mutual affair. As a successful concern it should be run on the policy of toleration and moderation, reciprocity and co-operation. But the groom should always remember to be Johnny-on-the-spot the same as he was in courting days. With these few remarks we beg to be excused from discussing the subject until next June.

and then……….

CLIPPED FROM
The Winnipeg Tribune
Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada12 Oct 1914, Mon  •  Page 1

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My Wedding Tiara — From the Pen of Noreen Tyers of Perth

 

Gerry and Noreen (Regan) Tyers. April 29, 1961 At the Church we were married. Trinity Anglican , on Cameron and Bank Streets in Ottawa. Photo Noreen Tyers

 

 

                               My Wedding Tiara

 

My beautiful little tiara I wore on my wedding day

Was used by my daughter, when as a child a princess she did play.

I’d retrieved this little tiara and placed it back on the shelf

Then one day when I was cleaning, there it was again all by itself.

So once again I retrieved it and wrapped it in a cloth to be put away

Now this time, I hid it oh so carefully and there in the hat box it seemed to stay.

When my daughter decided to marry she thought again of this little tiara so fair

 

Teri (Tyers) and Blair White Wedding Oct 9/99 Camp Merrywood on the Rideau

 

 

She felt once again like a princess and included it in her own wedding plans with care.

Apart came my little tiara with it’s shiny beads all askew

Don’t worry she said for in jig time it will appear once again just like new.

Some pearls were added to the stones of this beautiful little tiara to be worn on her Wedding day

Once again it was used by my precious loving daughter at her very own special time we pray.

How important it is to keep treasures and collect your own special thoughts

For you know my dear wonderful memories like this just never can be bought.

These tiny beads are now left over from your very own beautiful Wedding head piece.

Put them away in a safe place for some day a daughter may use them with her very own wedding fleece.

February 2001 From the Pen of Noreen

 

 

Some more wedding Trivia from my collection of Wedding Trivia

Garters originated in the 17th century as silk sashes tied below the bride’s knee, which were removed by the groomsmen and worn in their hats. Other garters might be fancifully decorated with blue ribbon symbolizing constancy. They would be part of a bride’s trousseau filled with such a frothery assortment of lingerie and linen, perhaps embroidered and sewn by her own hand, to be taken to her new home.

Why does the bride carry a handkerchief? Not all brides do, but if you choose to, it will be a lucky sign. Early farmers thought a bride’s wedding-day tears were lucky and brought rain for their crops.–With Love ❦ Handcrafted by Noreen

In days gone by the Bridal Hankie was put away after the wedding day to be turned into a Christening bonnet for the first born Child

❧❦❧ A Bridal Hankie

A little hankie I edged for you In each stitch I planted a few

A wish for happiness, a wish for health

Please don’t forget to look after your wealth

This hankie may be used when sad and maybe a little blue

But most of all I want happy tears and keep the sad ones few

Carry this hankie on your wedding day

Then put it away and take it out on a joyful Christening day

With Love ❦ Handcrafted by Noreen

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