She’s a Lady— Whoaaa Whoaaa Whoaaa




Perth Courier, June 29, 1860

Read the Almonte Gazette here

The Almonte Examiner is the title of a new paper started in the village of Almonte.  It is under the management of Thomas Leckie.  It is very creditably got up, is conducted with ability and is devoted to the cause of Reform and progress generally.  As a disseminator of Liberal principles in the Ottawa section of the country we wish them every success. We publish with interest today the article:

What is a Lady?

A lady must possess perfect refinement and intelligence.  She must be a Christian, mild, gentle and charitable, unostentatious and doing good by stealth.  She must be deaf to scandal and gossip.  Her high sense of honor will forbid her prying into her husband’s secrets, searching stealthily his portmanteau and pockets and breaking open his desk drawers.


She must not disdain a kindly nod of recognition to her servants, seamstress, dress maker, butcher, baker or any other employee she may chance to meet.  She must possess discrimination, know of human nature and tact sufficient to avoid offending one’s weak points, steering wide of all subjects which may be disagreeable to any one present.  She must keep the Golden Rule uppermost in her mind.  She must look upon personal cleanliness and freshness of attire as next to godliness.  Her dress must be in accord with her means, never dressy or flashy but if possible composed of the best material.  Abhorring everything soiled or faded finery or mock jewellery, her pure mind and clear conscience will cause the foot of time to pass as lightly over the smooth brows as if she stepped on flowers and as she moves with quiet grace, and dignity all will accord her instinctively the title of lady.




To Wives:

The first inquiry of a woman after marriage should be:  how shall I continue the love I have inspired?  How shall I preserve that heart I have won?

  1. Endeavour to make your husband’s habitation pleasing and delightful to him.  Let it be a place to him where his heart may always turn from the calamities of life.
  2. Invariably adorn yourself with delicacy and modesty.  These, to a man, are attractions the most highly captivating.
  3. Cultivate and exhibit the greatest care and constancy, cheerfulness and humour.  A gloomy, dissolute manner is chilly and repulsive to his feelings.  He will be apt to seek elsewhere for those smiles and that cheerfulness which he finds not in his own house.
  4. Particularly shun what the world calls in ridicule “curtain lectures”.  When you shut your door at night endeavour to shut at the same moment all discord and contention.
  5. Be careful never to join in a jest and laugh at your husband.  Conceal his faults and speak only of his merits.
  6. Few things please a man more than seeing his wife notable and clever in the management of her household.
  7. Let him be your empire—your world.  Let it be the stage on which the varied characters of wife, mother and mistress where you strive to shine.


Buy Linda Secaspina’s Books— Flashbacks of Little Miss Flash Cadilac– Tilting the Kilt-Vintage Whispers of Carleton Place and 4 others on Amazon or Amazon Canada or Wisteria at 62 Bridge Street in Carleton Place


About lindaseccaspina

Linda Knight Seccaspina was born in Cowansville, Quebec about the same time as the wheel was invented and the first time she realized she could tell a tale was when she got caught passing her smutty stories around in Grade 7 at CHS by Mrs. Blinn. When Derek "Wheels" Wheeler from Degrassi Jr. High died in 2010, Linda wrote her own obituary. Some people said she should think about a career in writing obituaries. Before she laid her fingers to a keyboard, Linda owned the eclectic store Flash Cadilac and Savannah Devilles in Ottawa from 1976-1996. After writing for years about things that she cared about or pissed her off she finally found her calling. Is it sex drugs and rock n' roll you might ask? No, it is history. Seeing that her very first boyfriend in Grade 5 (who she won a Twist contest with in the 60s) is the head of the Brome Misissiquoi Historical Society and also specializes in local history back in Quebec, she finds that quite funny. She writes every single day and is also a columnist for Hometown News and Screamin's Mamas. She is a volunteer for the Carleton Place and Beckwith Heritage Museum, an admin for the Lanark County Genealogical Society Facebook page, and a local guest speaker. She has been now labelled an historian by the locals which in her mind is wrong. You see she will never be like the iconic local Lanark County historian Howard Morton Brown, nor like famed local writer Mary Cook. She proudly calls herself The National Enquirer Historical writer of Lanark County, and that she can live with. Linda has been called the most stubborn woman in Lanark County, and has requested her ashes to be distributed in any Casino parking lot as close to any Wheel of Fortune machine as you can get. But since she wrote her obituary, most people assume she's already dead. Linda has published six books, "Menopausal Woman From the Corn," "Cowansville High Misremembered," "Naked Yoga, Twinkies and Celebrities," "Cancer Calls Collect," "The Tilted Kilt-Vintage Whispers of Carleton Place," and "Flashbacks of Little Miss Flash Cadilac." All are available at Amazon in paperback and Kindle. Linda's books are for sale on Amazon or at Wisteria · 62 Bridge Street · Carleton Place, Ottawa, Canada, and at the Carleton Place and Beckwith Heritage Museum · 267 Edmund Street · Carleton Place, Ottawa, Canada--Appleton Museum-Mississippi Textile Mill and Mill Street Books and Heritage House Museum and The Artists Loft in Smith Falls.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s