Supporting Community– Negative Chatter and Judgement



The only time humans don’t judge is when they change their residential address after they die. If you find out about someone’s past by gossip, do you judge them for it? Should someone’s present needs like Lisa Barrie and her family be judged by past mistakes? The Jeffrey’s Journey Home Campaign is to help Lisa’s oldest son Jeffrey with all money raised to be put in a trust for him. Lisa herself,  who is not the main focus, should be given a second chance. When Volundur Wally Thorbjornsson and his Angel Foundation initially heard rumours swirl around as they do in a small town, he chose the high road. One of the most profoundly human things you can do is to talk to someone, instead of about them and that is what he chose to do. Instead of dwelling on a past Wally chose to look to the future of the Barrie family.

I think it’s something we may try not to do, yet subconsciously we do anyway. Why do we have such a negative view on the mistakes others have made in the past? You can’t go back and change them.  If you could, would changing it be worth the lessons you learned?

When people are young and inexperienced, we choose the wrong partner. Blinded by hormones, we don’t have the skills and possibly patience to adequately assess character. It’s easy to be blinded by charm, or looks, as each and every one of us knows. Sometimes we don’t get it right the first time, and sometimes we can’t make it right the10th time.

I admit once you know or hear “rumblings” it’s hard to get it out of your mind. Some people can be more receptive if they can empathize with scenarios, but in more times than less most make assumptions quickly. What matters the most though isn’t what happened in the past—it’s what the individual did with it, the effort they made for redemption, and who they are now. As someone who has done things that I am not proud of, and messed up big time on my own “dark and dismal” phase, talking negatively about someone in need really does a lot of damage. We’ve all done our fair share of things we aren’t so proud of in the past, so let it be.


Should we leave a person of need in neglect because of past mistakes? Realistically, I know that people change, people grow, people learn. We need to remember that each one of us has been given only a specific number of seconds to remain on this planet. Your compassion for Lisa and her family will help bring light and peace to this awful situation, and become stronger. None of us are perfect, and I think if we were, life would be pretty darn boring. Use your best judgement and always think about how you would feel if the tables were turned.

As of today, funds are still desperately needed to purchase a home and equipment, and supply Jeffrey with the basic needs. “This is a long-term, ongoing initiative where the Angel Foundation will need to give support to this family. Each and every person’s contribution does make a difference, but together as a partnership with the town council and the community of Carleton Place nothing is impossible ”

Thank you for you compassion and donations.

Jeffrey’s Journey Home Facebook Page

A Carleton Place Mom’s plea—Help me bring my son home


hashtag #JeffreysJourneyHome

About lindaseccaspina

Before she laid her fingers to a keyboard, Linda was a fashion designer, and then owned the eclectic store Flash Cadilac and Savannah Devilles in Ottawa on Rideau Street from 1976-1996. She also did clothing for various media and worked on “You Can’t do that on Television”. After writing for years about things that she cared about or pissed her off on American media she finally found her calling. She is a weekly columnist for the Sherbrooke Record and documents history every single day and has over 6500 blogs about Lanark County and Ottawa and an enormous weekly readership. Linda has published six books and is in her 4th year as a town councillor for Carleton Place. She believes in community and promoting business owners because she believes she can, so she does.

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