How Long Should Sex Last?



A question about sexual longevity in the bedroom was one of the 60 second polls on a Dr. Oz rerun last week. Like Family Feud; a survey was conducted among consenting adults about how much time they spend on optimal “dirty dancing”.

The choices were:

10 minutes
30-60 minutes
1-3 hours

I sat there laughing and was sure 30-60 minutes was the choice “du jour” but I was dead wrong. Apparently 10 minutes of coitus is the popular answer. Their research also seems to insinuate anything past 10 minutes is in the workout range.

According to the media story: “A survey of sex therapists concluded the optimal amount of time for sexual intercourse was 3 to 13 minutes.” I wish someone had told this to the couple that used to live next door to me at one point in my life. Not content with that answer, I continued my research and according to a study called “Canadian and American Sex Therapists’, adequate sex should take anywhere from three to seven minutes–not including the National Anthem, Oh Canada.

Come on, 7 minutes?

That does not even rate a “quickie” status in my personal endeavors. Has anyone hit first gear in that time frame, and does that give new meaning to what is fondly called ‘minute men’? What happened to the Cosmopolitan articles of those that spend at least 107 minutes? So, after 13 minutes of the anticipated 107, is everyone thinking about what to wear tomorrow, who was cut from The Voice, and, where they can get something to soothe the chafing?

I asked my neighbour how long she thought sex should last and she replied, “three years–five with no kids”. This Dr. Oz poll was surely answered by baby boomers, as who else was brought up on TV with instant highlights, and no ability to focus for over 3 minutes. I guess we now have to find a TV program with lots of 60 second spots and look at our partner and say,

“Heh Baby, let’s get it on!”
My final summation is:

“Sex is like a gas station, sometimes you get full service, sometimes you gotta ask for service, and sometimes you have to be happy with self service!”

Flashbacks of Little Miss Flash Cadilac by Linda Seccaspina available at Wisteria 62 Bridge Street in Carleton Place or on Amazon.

Linda Seccaspina’s books here


About lindaseccaspina

Before she laid her fingers to a keyboard, Linda was a fashion designer, and then owned the eclectic store Flash Cadilac and Savannah Devilles in Ottawa on Rideau Street from 1976-1996. She also did clothing for various media and worked on “You Can’t do that on Television”. After writing for years about things that she cared about or pissed her off on American media she finally found her calling. She is a weekly columnist for the Sherbrooke Record and documents history every single day and has over 6500 blogs about Lanark County and Ottawa and an enormous weekly readership. Linda has published six books and is in her 4th year as a town councillor for Carleton Place. She believes in community and promoting business owners because she believes she can, so she does.

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